Have you ever really thought about the saying ‘Life begins at the end of your comfort zone’ and how it applies to your own life? We can easily get quagmired into a comfortable life where we do the easy thing without even thinking about it. Let’s take drinking, for example, it’s certainly the easy road to pour yourself a drink at the end of the day. You might even be at the point where you find yourself doing it even when you didn’t plan on it because the drinking pathways in your brain are so firmly entrenched. If you’re here with me you are likely curious about living life alcohol-free (AF). Perhaps you’re preparing to change your life but don’t quite feel ready? I’m going to offer a suggestion to prepare for the big move…start to be BOLD Baby!
One of the things that stop us from choosing a more daring path is our need for certainty. If we are going to go to the effort of changing our drinking habits, or any other cornerstone routine in our daily life, we want to know ahead of time that our life will be better after. (It will- but that’s not a guarantee). We want to know it’s all going to work out in the end. So many people stay stuck because they can’t tolerate the thought of the unknown. The skill of pushing past your personal boundary, beyond what is easy for you, is simply a habit. You can actually train your brain to be okay with the feeling of unease as you are learning to move forward. The feeling of discomfort from doing something new, different or challenging is still there but you learn to accept it as necessary because it signals growth for you. The best kind of growth.
How can you use the concept of pushing through your comfort zone to get ready to stop drinking? Ditching the booze doesn’t have to be hard but it will make you uncomfortable because you are no longer numb. You are required to get reacquainted with your feelings instead of pouring yourself a glass. Training yourself to go into discomfort, and feel the burn inside, will be very helpful (huge understatement) for any accomplishment.
I believe the best time to change the way you drink is right now. But, for the sake of the point I’m trying to make, let’s say you’re thinking about it but aren’t prepared to do it in the summer…then use this time to train your brain which will make it easier for you in the long run. Start to do stuff that makes you uncomfortable. Then do another thing, and again, so you strengthen those pathways in your brain. Lift more weight in the gym, ride farther, run faster and feel the burn inside you. Hold on to your money when you really want to buy those sandals you love, feel the burn inside you. Present your business plan to your banker, feel the burn inside you. Be bold this summer, be brave and feel the burn inside you. Every time you do this you’re stretching your limits and pushing past your boundaries in a most excellent way which is great prep for big life changes.
There is something very potent on the other side of your regular old comfort zone – empowerment and personal pride. Every single time you choose the bigger life it’s hard, sometimes crazy hard, but what happens is you become okay with that ‘Holy Crap’ feeling! You get comfortable with the discomfort of pushing forward and it will serve you well. The average adult almost never pushes herself farther than is comfortable so let’s not be average. Do things that scare you. Earn the respect of your spirit by showing up in your physical life. Practice, Dear One, because this is a trainable skill and you can do it!
P.S. I’ve certainly been practicing getting uncomfortable over here! I’m working on a course for you and sometimes it’s hard and sometimes it’s scary but I know I’m on the right path. Stay tuned cause I’d LOVE to have you join me! If you’re ready to grab a FREE copy of my best tips to start to explore your relationship with alcohol click on the link at the top of this page! These simple ideas started me on the road to happily living alcohol-free, even when I never would’ve believed it could happen.
If you’re ready to grab a FREE copy of my best tips to start to explore your relationship with alcohol click on the link at the top of this page! These simple ideas started me on the road to happily living alcohol-free, even when I never would’ve believed it could happen. xoxo Donna
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